tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-785221057159470935.post1848327450323733215..comments2023-10-15T01:02:35.417-07:00Comments on Jane Donuts Has Opinions: Letting Go of Being a Hater - Is it Possible?Jane Donutshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16323202817659266999noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-785221057159470935.post-54612025031054869102010-12-07T17:42:15.003-08:002010-12-07T17:42:15.003-08:00@redcedar - thanks for your comment, and yes, I am...@redcedar - thanks for your comment, and yes, I am definitely trying! feels difficult when the bad things just keep popping into your head, but i guess as long as i'm not doing anything with them, there's no real harm (except to me, psychically.) <br /><br />@tammy - yeah, i think the meditation thing is more or less the way to go. just acknowledge it and move on.Jane Donutshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16323202817659266999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-785221057159470935.post-62879687802934135932010-12-07T13:40:35.075-08:002010-12-07T13:40:35.075-08:00I applaud this effort and know it's hard--I ju...I applaud this effort and know it's hard--I just wrote you an email about my coworkers practicing/mangling Xmas carols in the next room. I'm wondering if maybe the way to eradicate, or at least lessen, the ranting is to use the meditation technique? In other words, have the thought, acknowledge it, and then move on. Or maybe putting yourself into other people's shoes is helpful? These are just guesses, mostly. I've had a little luck with the second, haven't tried the first. They seem pretty time consuming (maybe only initially?). Good luck!Tammy Pajamashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04195343512832921003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-785221057159470935.post-11006193945764883452010-12-07T13:35:25.647-08:002010-12-07T13:35:25.647-08:00I have similar problems with the voice in my head ...I have similar problems with the voice in my head with regards to people's physical properties (ie: weight) which were drummed into me by my own mother continually asking "Do you think I'm as fat as her" everytime we went to the mall. So far, I have found no particular cure, but I do think some form of cognitive behaviour therapy (or practice) is the way to go. You know - where you replace the bad thoughts with good ones everytime until finally the good ones come more naturally?<br /><br />In any case, good for you for working on this particular issue in your life. Being a hater is so popular in our culture right now - so everywhere! It's hard to resist at times. Be a positive force and you'll feel better about you as well as everyone else!redcedarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01692452040948658558noreply@blogger.com